I get to point where I struggle to see the other side of the argument right now. The only thing that makes me a decent person in the eyes of secular society is my ability to see the other person's point of view. If I can state the case for a point I vehemently disagree with, in a way that a person who holds that position would recognize, then it is said I am being balanced and fair.
But right now I just can't. I can't see the other side. I mean nuclear disarmament is a great goal, but it is not even close to accomplished. The Middle East is still at war, even if they are doing a tiny bit better job of communicating without killing each other. But there is still this huge holocaust against the unborn. How is this even possible? How can someone who is consistently against saving infants who survive a botched abortion able to be considered peaceful?
I know I am on the wrong side on this one. At least secular society is trying to convince me that I am. But I just really don't get it this time. The late Mother Teresa deserved this award. She earned every moment of it. But right now I just can't see the other side. I mean, were the other candidates really that bad?
Since I am struggling so much to see the other side of this point of view, I have tried to stay out of it. I really have nothing to add.
Tuesday, October 13, 2009
Sunday, October 11, 2009
Sex makes babies?!?!
Seriously, our culture of death has just gone too far. I rented a movie the other night. For whatever reason I watched the previews on this particular one. Now I know why.
I kid you not, the very first line of the movie trailer is a young girl's voice saying these words, "Most babies are accidents..."
An accident? Really? That is how "far" our culture has come? I couldn't believe those horrible words. But at the same time I have to remember that our culture has such a mentality that sex doesn't make babies, they are shocked when it does!
I mean how do you accidentally make a baby? Honestly. Our contraceptive society has really gone off the deep end when it comes to logic. Sex makes babies. They know that. That is why they wanted contraception; because sex makes babies. Isn't more accurate to say that it is an accident when it doesn't make a baby? After all, fertility is a perfectly healthy state. To contracept is to break it. Contraception is the "accident." Contraception says, "I took this totally normal, healthy body part and broke it." If we take a normal car and crash it into a wall, don't we call that an accident? "Oops. It used to work, and now it doesn't. I accidentally broke it."
Contraception is the accident. Most of the time it doesn't work like "they" say it will. Sex continues to make babies, no matter how many people say that it doesn't. If you don't want to make a baby, don't have sex. It's not like it's rocket science or something.
I kid you not, the very first line of the movie trailer is a young girl's voice saying these words, "Most babies are accidents..."
An accident? Really? That is how "far" our culture has come? I couldn't believe those horrible words. But at the same time I have to remember that our culture has such a mentality that sex doesn't make babies, they are shocked when it does!
I mean how do you accidentally make a baby? Honestly. Our contraceptive society has really gone off the deep end when it comes to logic. Sex makes babies. They know that. That is why they wanted contraception; because sex makes babies. Isn't more accurate to say that it is an accident when it doesn't make a baby? After all, fertility is a perfectly healthy state. To contracept is to break it. Contraception is the "accident." Contraception says, "I took this totally normal, healthy body part and broke it." If we take a normal car and crash it into a wall, don't we call that an accident? "Oops. It used to work, and now it doesn't. I accidentally broke it."
Contraception is the accident. Most of the time it doesn't work like "they" say it will. Sex continues to make babies, no matter how many people say that it doesn't. If you don't want to make a baby, don't have sex. It's not like it's rocket science or something.
Tuesday, October 6, 2009
Favorite AI joke.
Even though I find artificial insemination to be totally against what God's plan is for the human race, it does have one of my favorite jokes on the subject. Movie quote: An expectant mother lies and says she was artificially inseminated (from frozen sperm) to cover up an adulterous relationship. Her mother quips, "Wonderful, now I can tell everyone that I am expecting a 'grand-cicle.'"
The theme of the movie is good in that the woman sees the error of her ways and discovers that her child is best raised with both a mother and a father. Her frightening fantasies of what kind of fathers the men she is dating would make are just hysterical. It is a movie worth seeing. "Look Who's Talking." Older now but still some great themes.
The wonderful part is that the baby is not aborted and treated with dignity and respect regardless of the means of his conception. If only all of society were so 'enlightened.' "Don't do it this way, but once the deed is done, treat that person as he really is, a full person," is the underlying message. A good message overall.
The theme of the movie is good in that the woman sees the error of her ways and discovers that her child is best raised with both a mother and a father. Her frightening fantasies of what kind of fathers the men she is dating would make are just hysterical. It is a movie worth seeing. "Look Who's Talking." Older now but still some great themes.
The wonderful part is that the baby is not aborted and treated with dignity and respect regardless of the means of his conception. If only all of society were so 'enlightened.' "Don't do it this way, but once the deed is done, treat that person as he really is, a full person," is the underlying message. A good message overall.
The Wrong Way of Puritanism
Now it can seem like someone who is against pornography would be prudish and lead toward a Puritan way of thinking. For many people this has happened. But sadder still is the person who, raised in a Puritan environment, will rebel and instead go towards pornography. It has been said that Hugh Hefner (I think that is how you spell it, I rather not look it up for concern of what I might find,) it was said that Mr. Hefner was raised in such a puritan environment that he was starving for simple affection. His desires led him to create a huge pornographic industry. How sad that this child was so deprived of simple affection that it led to such an extreme contrast, an industry that is almost entirely devoid of human contact.
It has been said by ones wiser than I, that puritanism and pornography are just two sides of the same coin. If this is true then a child raised in a sexually repressive environment can easily grow into the same kind of lifestyle that someone in a sexually explicit upbringing might join. Sexual abuse of children is horrific, and sexual repression of children is just the other side of the problem. To be prudish does not cure pornography, it only makes the contrast more acute.
It has been said by ones wiser than I, that puritanism and pornography are just two sides of the same coin. If this is true then a child raised in a sexually repressive environment can easily grow into the same kind of lifestyle that someone in a sexually explicit upbringing might join. Sexual abuse of children is horrific, and sexual repression of children is just the other side of the problem. To be prudish does not cure pornography, it only makes the contrast more acute.
Sunday, October 4, 2009
The Root of Pornography
As I read about a friend's neighbor in the paper I am reminded of some important truths. A husband and father is in jail now for child enticement. Rightly so. He communicated online with someone he thought was a 13-year-old girl and sought to have sexual contact. It was a sting operation, thankfully. He was actually communicating with police. He didn't get to claim another victim thanks to the vigilance of caring people.
I read the online comments and people were saying all of the things that one normally says about a pedophile, including some names I can't even mention here. But as I read I wondered how many of those people normally defend the production and viewing of pornography of adults? The common idea is that adults who engage in pornography do so willingly. Basically, defenders of adult pornography draw their line because of consent. They say an adult can consent.
But I am here challenging that premise. One singular piece of evidence proves pornography defenders completely wrong. The question to ask is WHO are these adults who become pornographic "artists?" The answer: nearly ALL are survivors of some form of childhood sexual abuse. I won't quite go out on the limb and say absolutely ALL simply because there will always be the person who denies it. I will state that again: nearly ALL pornographic performers are themselves victims of childhood sexual abuse. Look it up! How are they able to consent when that ability was taken from them at a very young age? Adult pornography is simply continued exploitation of men and women who were robbed of their childhood.
Those who view adult pornography are reaping the harvest that the pedophiles before them have sown.
I read the online comments and people were saying all of the things that one normally says about a pedophile, including some names I can't even mention here. But as I read I wondered how many of those people normally defend the production and viewing of pornography of adults? The common idea is that adults who engage in pornography do so willingly. Basically, defenders of adult pornography draw their line because of consent. They say an adult can consent.
But I am here challenging that premise. One singular piece of evidence proves pornography defenders completely wrong. The question to ask is WHO are these adults who become pornographic "artists?" The answer: nearly ALL are survivors of some form of childhood sexual abuse. I won't quite go out on the limb and say absolutely ALL simply because there will always be the person who denies it. I will state that again: nearly ALL pornographic performers are themselves victims of childhood sexual abuse. Look it up! How are they able to consent when that ability was taken from them at a very young age? Adult pornography is simply continued exploitation of men and women who were robbed of their childhood.
Those who view adult pornography are reaping the harvest that the pedophiles before them have sown.
Miscarriage
A good friend of mine had a miscarriage last week. She has struggled to conceive so this was profoundly rough on her. I have been doing what I can to support yet trying to keep my distance in other ways. I don't want to try to make her mourn on my terms. I see that in others around her and I know I have that same capacity. We all do. We say, "Oh my gosh get over it!" somewhere in the back of our minds. WHY??
Because in this culture of death we are all affected by the idea that a baby in utero is not "quite a baby yet." This person, is the size of a grain of rice. We, as a culture, have determined worth by size. A football player must be huge, a model must be tall and skinny. A baby must be baby-sized to be considered a person.
But the real answer is that science just keeps catching up with natural law. As science gets better and better, we will know sooner that a life exists. As science gets better and better we will be able to have an image of a developing baby like any other real-time photo. As science gets better and better we will be able to help even the most at risk pregnancies carry to term. And as science gets better and better it will be realized that the womb is a sacred space; the best possible environment for a baby to grow. Because science will never surpass the natural design.
As we begin to escape the culture of death we will start to see the sanctity of life. And finally women, and men, mourning a miscarriage will be treated with the respect they deserve. They will be given a full acknowledgment of a death in the family. We will give them them the love and support they so deserve. To those who say that the Church has enmity to science, they couldn't be more wrong. The research constantly proves the design. So I say to the real scientists, (not the ones who oppose ethical research) but to the scientists I say, "Please keep the research coming." We will all benefit. Life begins at conception, and science keeps proving it over and over.
Because in this culture of death we are all affected by the idea that a baby in utero is not "quite a baby yet." This person, is the size of a grain of rice. We, as a culture, have determined worth by size. A football player must be huge, a model must be tall and skinny. A baby must be baby-sized to be considered a person.
But the real answer is that science just keeps catching up with natural law. As science gets better and better, we will know sooner that a life exists. As science gets better and better we will be able to have an image of a developing baby like any other real-time photo. As science gets better and better we will be able to help even the most at risk pregnancies carry to term. And as science gets better and better it will be realized that the womb is a sacred space; the best possible environment for a baby to grow. Because science will never surpass the natural design.
As we begin to escape the culture of death we will start to see the sanctity of life. And finally women, and men, mourning a miscarriage will be treated with the respect they deserve. They will be given a full acknowledgment of a death in the family. We will give them them the love and support they so deserve. To those who say that the Church has enmity to science, they couldn't be more wrong. The research constantly proves the design. So I say to the real scientists, (not the ones who oppose ethical research) but to the scientists I say, "Please keep the research coming." We will all benefit. Life begins at conception, and science keeps proving it over and over.
Friday, October 2, 2009
We are not the sum total of our parts. We are more!
I just finished viewing some funny pictures on the web. Many of them were oh so funny! But I noticed a disproportionate amount of pictures were of women having their bodies ogled and generally putting themselves in sad situations. Those were not funny at all.
Here's an open-ended question. Who told these women that were worth only the sum total of the their body parts? I say it is open ended since there isn't a real answer. They were told by everyone at one time or another. I know, because I had one of those bodies, for a great many years. I spent more time trading on my looks than developing my character. For whatever reason I decided that my character wasn't enough. I have no answer. No one sat me down and said that I was all about my body. It just evolved. And my body, as a whole, wasn't even "traffic stopping" perfect. But the sum total was. I had the parts, and I had a mixed understanding of modesty. I covered everything, but I covered myself in a way that said "unwrap me," not in a way that said "my beauty is the strength of my heart, and my ability to love."
When I was plain I got ignored. When I was "hot" people listened to my message. Funny, after marrying a chef and having babies, I am no longer "hot," yet my message is better. I love more deeply and more freely. I was even told, more than once, that my old message was more palatable since it was wrapped in a pretty package.
My message has improved and my looks have aged. Those who matter listen to my message now. All of those people who "heard" my old message are long gone. Oh how I wish I could talk to my younger self and save her so much heart-ache! Those who matter want to know YOU, not your body! They are the ones who stay for good.
Here's an open-ended question. Who told these women that were worth only the sum total of the their body parts? I say it is open ended since there isn't a real answer. They were told by everyone at one time or another. I know, because I had one of those bodies, for a great many years. I spent more time trading on my looks than developing my character. For whatever reason I decided that my character wasn't enough. I have no answer. No one sat me down and said that I was all about my body. It just evolved. And my body, as a whole, wasn't even "traffic stopping" perfect. But the sum total was. I had the parts, and I had a mixed understanding of modesty. I covered everything, but I covered myself in a way that said "unwrap me," not in a way that said "my beauty is the strength of my heart, and my ability to love."
When I was plain I got ignored. When I was "hot" people listened to my message. Funny, after marrying a chef and having babies, I am no longer "hot," yet my message is better. I love more deeply and more freely. I was even told, more than once, that my old message was more palatable since it was wrapped in a pretty package.
My message has improved and my looks have aged. Those who matter listen to my message now. All of those people who "heard" my old message are long gone. Oh how I wish I could talk to my younger self and save her so much heart-ache! Those who matter want to know YOU, not your body! They are the ones who stay for good.
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